Are You Always Fighting? Don’t Worry! We Can Help!

Kola and Fatimah have been married for 12 years. They have two children together, but lately, they have been arguing all the time. They fight about everything from chores to finances to how to raise their children. They often feel like they are talking past each other and can’t seem to find common ground.

Despite their efforts to work through their issues, the fighting only seems to get worse. Kola and Fatimah feel like they are growing apart and don’t know how to fix their relationship.

One day, they decide to seek help from a couples therapist at Talk Space Counseling Services. The therapist helps them to identify the underlying dynamics that are contributing to their conflicts and teaches them specific strategies for improving communication and managing conflict.

Here are some underlying scenarios that are contributing to couples’ arguments and fighting:

1. Difficulty with empathy: Couples argue and fight when they have difficulty understanding and empathizing with each other’s perspectives. So, we teach couples how to build empathy and compassion for each other, which can help to reduce conflict and increase connection.

• Lack of trust: Couples may argue and fight when they don’t trust each other. Couple therapy provides couples with tools and strategies for building trust, such as being open and honest with each other and following through on commitments.

• Unresolved issues from the past: Couples may also argue and fight when they have unresolved issues from their past that are still affecting their relationship. Talk Space Counseling Services provides couples with tools and strategies for resolving past issues and building a new, positive future together.

• Lack of communication: Couples will always argue and fight when they don’t feel heard or understood by their partner. Our approach is to teach couples how to communicate effectively, including how to express their feelings and needs respectfully and actively listen to each other.

During therapy, Kola and Fatimah learn how to express their feelings and needs in a respectful and non-blaming way. They also learn how to listen actively to each other and validate each other’s perspectives. By working together to identify the root of their conflicts, they can find solutions that work for both of them.

As they work through their issues, Kola and Fatimah begin to feel closer and more connected to each other. They find that they can resolve conflicts more positively and productively, and they begin to enjoy spending time together again.

With the help of the therapist at Talk Space, Kola, and Fatimah were able to turn their relationship around and build a stronger, more resilient partnership. They learned that it is possible to overcome even the most difficult relationship challenges with the right tools and support.