
“Las Las, Everybody Go Dey Alright” – But Are We?
The phrase, “Las las, everybody go dey alright,” has become a national anthem for coping mechanisms or resilience in Nigeria whenever things go south.
Stories of different married women that are either exhausted, unhappy, or abused keep increasing daily on social media. Though marriage can be a beautiful and fulfilling union between two people who love and respect each other. However, for many women, marriage is beginning to lead to exhaustion, feelings of unhappiness, and a sense of being stuck in a relationship that feels stagnant, unfulfilling, or even abusive. If you are one of these women, please know that help is available.
As an experienced relationship therapist, I can provide therapy or counseling to guide you through the steps you can take to support your marriage and improve your mental and emotional health with the aid of counseling tools and services.
1. Acknowledge and Communicate Your Feelings: It’s essential to recognize and acknowledge your emotions and feelings, whether it’s dissatisfaction or anger towards your husband, indifference or numbness, or any other feeling that may arise. If you’re unable to communicate these feelings with your husband, seek the help of a counselor who can help you uncover your thoughts, feelings, and emotions as well as how to communicate your needs and feelings effectively.
2. Seek Counseling: As your counselor, I can help you work through your emotions, understand your partner’s behavior better, and create a roadmap to a healthier marriage. I will provide a safe and judgment-free space where you can communicate your feelings and work with you toward improving your relationship.
3. Take Care of Your Emotional and Mental Health: A happy marriage starts with two happy and healthy individuals. If you’re feeling overwhelmed, tired, or burnt out, take some time out to focus on your emotional and mental health. Consider therapy, meditation, or other self-care practices that can help you improve your mood, increase your self-esteem, and boost your motivation.
4. Be Open to Change: Change is an essential part of any relationship, and it’s crucial to be open to change if you want to improve your marriage. Be willing to listen to your partner and consider their point of view and try new approaches or habits to improve your relationship.
5. Consider Separation or Divorce: If all else fails, and the problems in the marriage are too deep to be resolved, it may be time to consider separation or divorce. This can be a difficult decision, but sometimes it is the best option for both parties to move on and find happiness elsewhere.
In conclusion, counseling services can be a helpful resource for women who are unhappy in their marriages. By working with a trained professional, you can learn principles for making marriage work, effective communication skills, improve your mental and emotional health, and build a happier and healthier marriage. Remember, it’s never too late to seek help and transform your marriage for the better.
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